The More Validation You Seek, The More Unworthy You Feel
If you’ve ever tried to convince someone about you, then you will be all too familiar with that feeling of becoming unconvinced about yourself. Seeking...
Guilt and Why There’s No Need to Play Be the Over-Responsible ‘Bad Guy’
If, as a child, you were given (or assumed) responsibility for others’ feelings and behaviour, you may ‘over-feel’, leading to painful codependent relationships. You won’t...
How to Make 2024 the Year You FIND LOVE
Want to find love in 2024? Now is the time when everyone is making New Year’s resolutions. It’s fun and I love that...
Living With Excessive Fear Blocks Love, Care, Trust and Respect
Fear plays a crucial role in alerting us to situations where self-care is necessary. Notifying you of a possible threat, when you don’t distinguish between...
Resisting Change Leads to the Groundhog Day of Relationship Insanity
In this article I compare your relationship to Groundhog Day. It’s easy to believe that you’re open to change if you’ve tended to lose yourself...
How Self-Esteem Influences Romantic Attraction and Chemistry
Attraction is necessary, as it distinguishes our romantic relationships from friendships. Combined with chemistry, attraction is the sum of how we connect and relate to...
Letting Go of the Control Reins: The Path to True Emotional Autonomy
We humans love being in control. We fear uncertainty, not being liked, being unable to handle situations, and leaving our comfort zones. As a result,...
The Powerful Untruths of Our Negative Beliefs Block Loving Relationships
What are your beliefs? When something happened in your childhood that you didn’t like the look or feel of, you searched for reasons to explain...
Pretending to Be Something You’re Not Won’t Win You a Relationship
When you pretend to be something you’re not, doing things not because they reflect who you are but because it’s what you’ve always done, what...
The Relationship Pothole of Giving Our Power Away to False Authorities
All of us have relationship potholes. They’re blind spots that keep catching us out. One of mine that I’ve had to face down numerous times...